Alix Fox | Contributing Writer | Wednesday, 25 February 2015

'Here's What I Learned At A Strap-On Dildo "Pegging" Sex Class'

The Debrief: ‘Pegging’: not just something you do with your wet laundry – although you may need to wash your sheets afterwards

‘Pegging’ is the delicate art of wearing a strap-on dildo – a fake phallus attached to your body – and penetrating your partner with it. 

The only time I’ve worn a Wang is when designer Alexander produced a capsule collection for H&M. If a boyfriend ever asked me to peg him, I wouldn’t have a clue what to do. In the spirit of sexual adventure, I reckon I’d be up for giving it a whirl – but can you even whirl silicone willies, helicockter-style, or are they too stiff?! How do you go about choosing and using a strap-on dong, and how do you get it to stay securely in place? Some kind of glue? Prick Stick, perhaps? 

I had many questions – so I went along to a ‘Strap-On & Pegging Erotic Class for Women & Couples’ at Sh! erotic emporium in London’s Hoxton Square, where over the course of an hour, store manager Renee Denyer enlightened me.  Here are some of the things I learned…

 

Why would a woman use a strap-on? There are many reasons

There were all sorts of folks at the Sh! class, from lesbian couples who wanted to experiment with penetrating each other vaginally using strap-ons, to straight ladies whose male partners wanted to be pegged in order to enjoy intense anal and prostate stimulation. Also known as ‘the male G-spot’, the prostate gland is located four or five inches up a chap’s rectum, and the feeling of a dildo rhythmically nudging against it can apparently be more delicious than a Happy Meal on a hangover.

There’s a psychological appeal to pegging, as well as a physical one. For some guys, being dominated by a woman wearing a willy is the ultimate submissive thrill, while lasses themselves can feel empowered and excited by spontaneously sprouting their own schlong. There’s also an argument that men who’ve tried pegging are better lovers, because they have a deeper understanding of what it’s like to have a penis-like object (a peen-esque?) enter an orifice, which makes them better able to relate to their ladyfriends during sex. 

 

 

Blokes can wear strap-ons, too

‘If you’re into double penetration, a man can don a strap-on so it sits above his own hard-on, and put them both inside you,’ reveals Renee. 

‘In addition, strap-ons can be used by men who suffer erectile dysfunction, as unlike real penises, dildos never go soft,’ Renee continues. ‘I have a 74-year-old male customer who uses a strap-on to keep his wife satisfied now his own equipment is unreliable.’

 

 

You don’t just have to stick your rubber dick on your crotch 

Strap-on dildos are held in place on top of your privates using harnesses, which are available in a variety of styles. Pull-on elasticated designs – which look like robust knickers with a hole in the front where the dildo pokes out – are easy and convenient, but don’t fit everyone. Strappy leather harnesses with adjustable buckles are more customisable, and look like bad-ass boner holsters. ‘If you want to use a larger, heavier dildo, you’ll need a harness with a broader back to support it, so it doesn’t sag down,’ counsels Renee.

You can get harnesses that attach to your thigh, too. They’re fixed with Velcro, so they feel a bit like a blood pressure monitor being strapped to your leg. They don’t block the vag area, so they’re good if a woman wants to switch between pegging her partner and being diddled herself. They also mean you can invite your boyfriend to sit on your knee, Santa-style, and receive a gift that will either delight him or make him turn whiter than Casper in a Daz commercial. 

 

 

Spaghetti will never look the same again 

Once you’ve selected your harness, you’ll need to pick up a silicone weiner to whack in it, selecting the dimensions, curve and texture (smooth or ribbed) that best suit you and your boo. 

Dildo diameters are measured using a wooden tool with different sized holes in it, which resembles one of those widgets for portioning out pasta. Spaghetti Bollocknaise, anyone?

 

 

‘Thrill-dos’ are A Thing

Strap-on dildos have a flat base, which helps keep them tightly in place in the harness. Some have a hole in this base, into which you can insert a little bullet vibrator that nuzzles against the wearer’s genitals and gives added sensation for both pegger and pegee (if I ever get done up the bum with a strap-on, I have  already decided that my nookie nickname will be Pegee Mitchell). 

These are called ‘thrill-dos’. ‘Buzzcocks’ would also be a good label. 

 

‘Spiderman Lube’ is also A Thing 

Using lubricant during pegging is essential, and Sh! has a humongous sex-lection of different types. Renee demonstrates one called ‘Probe’. ‘I affectionately call this “Spiderman Lube”, because it’s very viscous and stringy – it’s formulated with citrus extracts and supposed to very closely mimic a woman’s natural vaginal juices,’ she says. 

It looks like superhero snot. And, yes, like what my snatch might produce if it sneezed.

 

Hardcore peggers can use strapless strap-ons

Instead of having a flat base, strapless strap-ons have an egg-shaped bulb on the end, which is inserted into a lady’s foof and held there by clenching the vaginal muscles. You need the Popeye of pussies to manage this. 

 

I played with the strap-on dildo I was given to wear in the class like it was a giant joy stick the whole tim

I couldn’t help myself. I felt compelled to grab it. Having my own part-time todger was undeniably pleasing.  If you’re even remotely curious about pegging, I recommend Renee’s classes highly – book your tix at www.sh-womenstore.com. At £25, they’re far from a phallus economy. 

 

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