The Appeal Of Getting Back With An Ex, And Why Selena Gomez Keeps Doing It

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The Appeal Of Getting Back With An Ex, And Why Selena Gomez Keeps Doing It

by Phoebe Parke |
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Rumour has it that Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez are dating, again.

The stars have been seen together more frequently recently; hanging out at her house, enjoying a bike ride, and at a hockey game where Justin played and Selena wore a jersey that matched his.

The news comes days after Selena announced her split from singer The Weeknd after 10 months of dating, saying he was the one to call it off.

In a timely release, Selena’s video for her single Wolves is out now – does it provide any clues?

In the video she dances around in a fancy schmancy apartment, while on FaceTime with her producer Marshmello, who is playing her track for her.

Is this the ‘I just got my man back’ dance? Or the ‘I’m happy and I’m single’ dance? They’re both quite similar tbh.

Take a look for yourself.

‘In your eyes, there's a heavy blue,’ she sings (Justin Bieber has blue eyes, the plot thickens.)

‘I've looked for love in every stranger/ Took too much to ease the anger/ All for you, yeah, all for you’

Why does this sound like Facebook status’ we’d post after getting back with an ex in 2001?

Justin and Selena first met in 2010 before officially confirming they were dating in 2012, they then had an on and off relationship until 2014.

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But what exactly is the appeal of going back to an ex?

1. It’s comfortable

And we’re not just talking about borrowing his clothes. His face is familiar, it all feels very homely and nice, he knows where you like to eat and you don’t have to explain your boundaries to him all over again.

Sometimes when you’re fresh out of a breakup the thought of starting all over again with a new guy is literally the most. exhausting. thing.

2. Better the devil you know, right?

Yes, he snores, has terrible table manners and is basically a man-baby. But at least you already know so there are no surprises.

3. You already know his friends and family

And you’re back together just in time for an invite to Christmas dinner. YUM.

4. You think it will be just the same as it was before

‘Let’s just go back to how things were babe’ he says. And you actually believe it will be just how it was in the honeymoon phase – all cute dates, romantic gestures and butterflies.

5. It feels like a victory

We read about celebs breaking up every single day, so if we do get back with an ex we think we’re defying the odds and we’ve won a huge battle.

In reality many of the reasons we go back to an ex can only be justified in the moment, and don’t stand up in the longer term. But Selena's actions are totally #relatable.

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This article originally appeared on The Debrief.

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