Empowering Advice To Help You Through Today #ToTheGirls
The Debrief: The hashtag was designed to encourage girls to feel ‘seen, heard and loved’, and for all the right reasons...
Courtney Summers is an author who’s written a book called All The Rage, ‘about a girl who is ostracised by her community for speaking up about an assault. The absence of support takes a huge emotional toll on her.’
The book then ‘examines the shame and silence inflicted on young women in a culture that refuses to protect them’. And to promote the book – and also undo so many myths surrounding where boys’ and girls’ sexual responsibilities lie (clue: they should be equals in this field), she got the hashtag #ToTheGirls going.
Courtney explained on her Tumblr that people should, on 14 April, ‘take the opportunity to tell the girls you know—and the ones you don’t—that they are seen, heard and loved. Share advice. Be encouraging. Tell us about or thank the girls in your life who have made a difference in yours.’
And, wow, did people respond. Here are just some of the oodles of tweets that make us feel just that little bit better and more encouraged in ourselves – because sadly, in a world where sexual violence is meted out across all ages and classes and races and countries and jurisdictions and is so commonly met with ‘you’re making it up’, this sort of support for women is still needed
#tothegirls people will try to tell you your dreams are too big. they'll tell you it's impossible because they're scared that it's not— camEEla cabeYo (@camilacabello97) April 14, 2015
We men are taught, from birth, to devalue women. And to lie about it. Don’t let some dude tell you it’s just your imagination. #ToTheGirls— Saladin Ahmed (@saladinahmed) April 14, 2015
#ToTheGirls you will always be too much of something for someone: too big, too soft, too edgy. if you round your edges, you lose your edge.— chloe (@grlforce) April 14, 2015
#tothegirls love yourselves. love each other. don’t let anyone talk down your gender. if you identify as a girl, that's what you are.— farwz (@farwzaz) April 14, 2015
#ToTheGirls There are no rules about how to be a girl, so whatever way you want to do it? YES. THAT'S THE RIGHT WAY.— Maureen Johnson (@maureenjohnson) April 14, 2015
#tothegirls you don’t have to be someone's daughter-sister-mother for your wellbeing to matter. you’re a human and that's why you matter.— manda (@xxlcoffee) April 14, 2015
It‘s okay to say no. It’s okay to put yourself first. It’s okay to get angry. It’s okay to express your anger. #toThegirls— Leila Roy (@bkshelvesofdoom) April 14, 2015
you don’t have to deny your accomplishments & talents to make other people more comfortable. ever. #tothegirls— courtney summers (@courtney_s) April 14, 2015
‘You’re so different/better than other girls’. Be wary of anyone who throws others under the bus in order to pay a compliment #ToTheGirls— Heluva Bottom Carter (@OreoSpeedwagon_) April 14, 2015
You don’t owe anyone your body, your labor, your time, or your attention. Those are yours to use as you see fit. #ToTheGirls— Bailey (@the_author_) April 14, 2015
Your tastes: your music your movies your books--they lead the cultural pack. That scares some people b/c it gives you power. #tothegirls— Steve Brezenoff (@sbrezenoff) April 14, 2015
Amen to all of that. Brb just going to make these our desktop background.
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