A lot of online dating profiles these days are photo-based. On phone dating apps, you have a couple of photos, and a really minimal ‘About Me’ section which, if it’s not left blank, tends to be limited to a BlackBerry Pin code, an Instagram user name or something silly like, ‘Beer, travel, fun’ or, ‘I’m just me lol’.
But cross over to the world of desktop dating sites and you have a lot more text to wade through. These people are taking online dating a lot more seriously, investing so much in it that they’ll set aside time to search for potential dates online each evening in lieu of going out and meeting people,instead of just swiping about on Tinder at the pub when their friend has gone to the toilet.
That’s presumably why one guy put down 123 commandments for those women who might be thinking about messaging him. Reading like the sex rider of a particularly fussy world-famous musician (more Mariah Carey than Mick Jagger), it details exactly who shouldn’t message this man.
Some of the stipulations we can get down with, as the user, spotted by Tumblr devotee Emily after he messaged her (she must be perfect, then!) reels off the conditions under which someone shouldn’t message him:
Others on his list we’ll guilty admit to imposing ourselves, at least secretly, when trying to filter out suitable IRL dates from people we’ve encountered online. Or when we’re on that awkward date with them as they faff about in the entrance of a bar putting their coat on:
But then there are some that are downright weird/mean/stupid:
And then there are the ones we find most offensive – the mansplaining ones – where the user seems to detest women who do things that are largely expected of women:
Maybe if he feels that strongly about the fact that women are encouraged to do certain things in order to play into the patriarchy, he wouldn’t have made such a detailed, specific wish list for women to adhere to. We didn’t even do that badly in his ‘test’ – dropping about 20 points – but we’re still not down with him thinking bossing women about like that before they’ve even message each other is a good idea.
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This article originally appeared on The Debrief.